How do I know if she is cheating?

The Christmas holidays are quickly approaching, and with them come beautiful moments. Hand holding during snowy strolls, snuggling up by a fire, singing carols as you wander your town. These romantic opportunities are just another joy you experience when you are with the one you love.

It also means you want to make sure you are creating those memories – with the right one. Someone who has the qualities you want, treats you amazingly, and is excellent at communication. Oh, and is faithful. Sadly, even when you think she might not be, cheating happens.

What are the signs? How do I know? What do I look for?

What are the signs of infidelity?

Knowing the signs can help determine if your partner is cheating. There are some common and not-so-common clues. Some common things to look for:

• Changing passwords (phone, computer, tablets, etc.).
• Sudden changes in behaviour, such as being more secretive, withdrawn, or aggressive.
• Unusual activity on their phone or computer, including deleting texts or social media posts.
• Lying about where they are going and who they’re with.
• Unexplained absences from home for long periods.
• Spending more time working.
• Fewer phone calls and text messages.
• Excuses not to be with you.
• Picking up new hobbies.
• Change in their mood.

Overall, if your partner is cheating, you will likely experience signs from the list above. Often, other signs aren’t as easy to spot.

• Projecting: She may accuse you of cheating or talking with other people.
• Appearance: Eating healthier and taking better care of themselves. Change in their appearance can indicate cheating.
• Sex: A noticeable difference in the frequency of sex. It could be a lot more or less often.
• Friends: Do her friends seem uncomfortable around you? It could be they know information, but are in a tough situation.
• Kissing: Is your partner kissing differently, or are there changes in sex? This can be a clue to infidelity.
• Fights: She may start fights over little things or become more irritated with you.

How do you handle these signs of cheating?

Communication is key to every healthy relationship; and you want a healthy relationship, whether it is with your current partner or a future one.

Going straight to your partner and asking. See what they have to say. Maybe you have evidence that gives you the obvious answer they are cheating. Maybe you don’t.

From there, decide what your head and heart are telling you to do. Do you want to make it work, or move on to healing yourself?

The next step is to check for STIs, even if you don’t get a confirmed answer on whether your partner cheated. If there is even the slightest chance, getting yourself tested is important in maintaining your healthy body. It is quick and easy! Check this link here – and maybe send it to your partner, too!