A women’s perspective: I do not want to have sex anymore. What is wrong with me?

What is wrong with me?

Opening your world up to your special someone builds a beautiful bond, full of love and excitement. Sex is an important aspect of your romantic relationship. It brings two people deeper in love, creates a healthy connection, and increases your mood. It is even great for your body’s health.

If there are many benefits to sex, then why don’t I want to have sex anymore? Where did my desire go? Am I the only one?

There are many reasons you may not be interested in sex. We will talk about some common ones. Your desire may be gone, but it can come back! Once you determine the why, you can work on finding a solution. And no, no, no—you are not the only one.

It is important to know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, even if you feel like there is. You aren’t broken, and you can reconnect with your partner sexually.

Why don’t I want to have sex anymore?

Many common factors play a role in the lack of sexual desire. You may have:

• A hormone imbalance
• Conflicts within the relationship
• Not feeling emotionally connected
• Relationship or external stressors
• Insecurities or no longer feeling attractive
• Sex isn’t satisfying
• Fatigue
• Partner isn’t sharing the household responsibilities
• Poor mental health (anxiety, depression, etc.)
• Communication struggles
• You feel it is too much work

You may experience one or more of these reasons behind not wanting sex anymore. That doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. It is ok, you just need to work through this with your partner.

Improving your sex drive

After pinpointing what needs work, it is time to put it into action. Decide for yourself what you need and how to improve the situation. If it is fatigue that has you not wanting sex because you are absolutely exhausted, tell your partner. Sit down and have a conversation. Work together to come up with a plan on how to compromise on household responsibilities so you aren’t feeling so exhausted.

If it is a communication disconnect, work with your partner. Explain how you can improve your communication and what you need. This will naturally lead to your desire for a physical connection to come back.

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Remember, having discussions about sex is amazing and a wonderful part of your relationship. Get to opening up and having those talks.